29. Unconditionally Loving All Our Parts
In this series, I am reviewing the Cliff Notes of everything I should have learned in medical school but didn’t. This includes everything I’ve learned since completing my medical training about healing, from my own research and self-study. If you haven’t read the first 10 revelations about healing that I didn’t learn in medical school, please refer to Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4.
As children, we all crave unconditional love. Many of us have young parts that desperately seek this perfect acceptance. However, this intense desire for unconditional love outside of ourselves can lead us to make self-destructive choices that hinder the healing process.
Ultimately, true unconditional love must come from within. However, since we initially seek it from our parents and later from our partners, mentors, and friends, we often become disillusioned. People will inevitably let us down because they are human, and humans are rarely capable of providing perfect acceptance. This breakdown registers as trauma in our nervous systems, and most of us experience this devastating letdown.
The solution is to develop a more adult understanding of love, offering unconditional love to our own inner child parts, and managing our expectations of others. It is realistic to recognize that expecting others to love us unconditionally often leads to mistreatment and expecting forgiveness when we misbehave. Similarly, striving to love someone else unconditionally can lead to tolerating abusive behavior without setting boundaries, all in the name of unconditional love.
We can love someone and still protect ourselves. We can love someone and choose to end the relationship or maintain no contact. We can love someone and hold them accountable or even take legal action against them. We can love someone from afar and never see them again.
While striving to love someone unconditionally is admirable, access to our bodies, homes, emotions, intimate relationships, bank accounts, children, and other privileges should be conditional. If someone is abusive, we must withdraw access to these privileges. Otherwise, unconditional love can easily turn into self-abuse, which ultimately harms us.
Real healing, both for ourselves and others, requires introspection. We must redirect our focus inward, developing a deep connection with our wounded parts. By doing so, they can finally release their immature pursuit of perfect love outside of ourselves.
30. Recognizing Your Worth
Many individuals who become ill have a distorted perception of their worth, value, and identity due to childhood trauma. They also develop distorted worldviews and belief systems as a result of this trauma. For example, they may believe their only worth lies in being useful to others, rather than recognizing their inherent worth as human beings.
Additionally, they may grow up thinking they are damaged or unlovable. They may feel defined by mental or physical illness, such as being the sickly child or the psychiatric patient who is the family’s outcast. Healing your identity requires unraveling these distorted self-perceptions and replacing them with accurate, truthful beliefs about yourself and the world.
People who have been cured of “incurable” diseases often report experiencing a profound transformation in their sense of worth, identity, belief systems, and worldview. This transformational experience can occur through therapy, a close and safe friendship, or a spiritual awakening. These individuals come to realize that the world is not a cold, unfriendly place and that they, along with others, possess real and true value. They discover that love exists and is available to all.
31. The Healing Power of Love
You have the ability to heal yourself, but you cannot do it alone. While the body has an innate capacity for self-healing, most of us cannot embark on the healing journey of trauma recovery in isolation. Even introverts require a supportive community of safe, nurturing, non-judgmental, and loving individuals who can guide and nurture them.
Love is what gives us the will to live. Without sufficient love, some people simply give up and resign themselves to their fate. In order to thrive, we need a strong will to live, and this often comes from the love and support of others.
32. The Importance of Healthy Boundaries
Your body will say no when you lack healthy boundaries. Many individuals who claim to want to be cured are unaware that they have conflicting parts within themselves. Some parts genuinely desire to be free from disease, while others are resistant to letting go of the medical reasons that excuse them from unwanted responsibilities.
For example, someone might use their illness as an excuse to avoid going to a job they dislike or to fulfill the cleaning demands of an overly obsessive-compulsive partner. While consciously sabotaging our health is not something most of us would do, these hidden parts believe they are protecting us by using our bodies as an excuse. If our boundaries are wounded, we may struggle to say no, and we may be conditioned to tolerate abusive behavior from entitled narcissists. In such cases, a legitimate medical excuse becomes necessary to assert ourselves.
Becoming aware of and developing intimacy with these resistant parts is crucial for healing medical conditions. Unfortunately, conventional medicine often overlooks this essential aspect of healing.
33. Reciprocal Relationships as Medicine
You deserve to enjoy reciprocal, healthy relationships and protect yourself from controlling relationships and narcissistic abuse. Nurturing, loving, and empathic relationships that involve shared power and healthy boundaries can significantly improve your health. On the other hand, being oppressed by narcissistic abuse, repeatedly having your boundaries violated, feeling overpowered and dominated, and losing your autonomy and ability to protect yourself can lead to increased disease risk and decreased longevity.
If you find yourself being drained by vampiric relationships, your health will inevitably suffer. Reciprocal relationships with healthy give-and-take dynamics support your overall well-being and improve longevity.
34. Healing as a Relational Activity
Despite the notion that healing can be achieved individually, the idea of healing alone is not realistic. It takes a community to support the healing of physically and mentally ill individuals. The good news is that if your life force or will to live diminishes, others can help lift you up.
While all living beings possess life force energy, sometimes external assistance is necessary when our own life force weakens. We may need someone (or a group of people) whose life force flows more freely to boost ours until our own life force can move through us unhindered. Humans have the incredible ability to entrain one another, promoting the free flow of life force energy. This lies at the core of the therapeutic process. When a therapist embodies their own sense of self, they can help entrain their client’s sense of self, thereby enhancing their life force until they can do so independently.
Conversely, while others can boost your life force, they can also drain you. This is how narcissists deplete their victims, using the same methods that can be applied for healing. However, excessive energy transfusions are temporary. They do not cure you, but rather provide a temporary boost while you address the root cause of the energy drain. If someone is draining your life force, or if you are overexerting yourself to transfuse others, conventional medicine or energetic transfusions will not lead to true healing.
The article was originally published on Lissa Rankin’s website.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why is holistic medicine better?
Holistic healthcare focuses on the whole person and not just individual symptoms. This involves looking at how someone feels about their body, their diet, where they live, and how much stress they have.
Holistic medicine takes into account all aspects of a patient’s life and treats them like a whole package. Although it may sound easy, in practice this is difficult because doctors tend to focus only on the physical aspect of patients.
What is a holistic medicine doctor?
A holistic doctor is one who treats patients holistically. They may combine western medicine with traditional methods like acupuncture and herbs.
They are not interested in treating symptoms but rather a disease. The patient should feel better following treatment.
The doctor should not be limited to treating the disease. He or she must also work with patients to prevent future complications.
Holistic refers to all aspects of someone’s life.
What is complementary medicine?
Complementary Medicine is an umbrella term for any medical treatment that complements mainstream medicine. It includes treatments such as acupuncture, aromatherapy, chiropractic care, homeopathy, hypnosis, massage therapy, naturopathy, reflexology, traditional Chinese medicine, yoga and others.
Complementary medications are not to be used as an alternative to conventional medicine. Sometimes they’re called “alternative”, or “integrative”, because they combine Western scientific methods along with other therapies that have proven to be effective in healing people.
Why do people with cancer use alternative methods?
When trying to deal with their cancer, patients with the disease are often confronted with many obstacles. Some patients may believe they are doomed to failure or that there is no way out. Some symptoms include nausea, vomiting, headaches, weight loss, and fatigue.
Additionally, most traditional treatments do not work against cancer cells. Many cancer patients turn to complementary medicine for treatment. A majority of cancer patients will use alternative medications at least once during treatment according to research.
Sometimes, cancer patients will choose complementary medicine to chemotherapy. This is because they believe it will be easier and more effective in managing side effects. It may be because it’s less expensive.
You can also use the following reasons:
Some patients believe that natural remedies can help prevent a recurrence.
Many people believe that natural remedies could improve the quality and quantity of their lives.
Some believe natural remedies can lower the chance of developing cancer again.
Natural remedies are first-line therapy for those who are concerned about side effects from chemotherapy.
What are the Five Alternative Medical Systems (Alternatives)?
These five alternative medicine systems are Ayurveda (acupuncture), Ayurveda (homeopathy), energy healing, aromatherapy, and homeopathy.
Acupuncture involves inserting fine needles into specific points of the body to stimulate the flow (qi) of energy throughout the entire body.
Ayurvedic medicines is an ancient system to balance the three senses of air, fire,, and water. It includes diet, exercise and herbal remedies. Massage is also included.
Homeopathic Medicine takes its name from the Greek words homoios, similar, and pathos, meaning disease. Homeopaths believe every disease has natural causes. But not all symptoms. They treat people by prescribing minute doses of substances that cause similar symptoms to those experienced when the person is ill.
Energy Healing is also known for Reiki, EFT Rolfing Therapeutic Touch, Rolfing and Rolfing. This therapy is based on the belief that each person is connected to a universal life force called Ki. We feel better when this Ki flows freely through our bodies. Energy healers use touch and intention to help restore balance and harmony between our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual selves.
Aromatherapy uses essential herbs extracted from plants to provide therapeutic benefits. Aromatherapists believe certain smells can have a positive effect on mood and behavior. The most common essential oil used in aromatherapy is lavender.
How safe is holistic medicine.
Holistic medicines are safe because they are not harmful drugs but natural remedies for people who have been using them for centuries.
They have been shown to cure many illnesses, such as arthritis, chronic pain, asthma, cancer, high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, obesity, depression, anxiety, stress, insomnia, sexual dysfunction, infertility, etc.
Holistic medicines are also used by millions of people around the world who suffer from various kinds of diseases. These include homeopathy and acupuncture as well as chiropractic care, massage therapy, homeopathy, herbal treatments, biofeedback, yoga, meditation, hypnosis, nutrition counseling, physical exercise, and other complementary therapies. These therapies target the whole person and not just the symptoms.
Statistics
- According to a 2005 book by a US [116]Institute of Medicine panel, the number of RCTs focused on CAM has risen dramatically. (en.wikipedia.org)
- The use of alternative medicine in the US has increased, with a 50 percent increase in expenditures and a 25 percent increase in the use of alternative therapies between 1990 and 1997 in America. (en.wikipedia.org)
- According to the World Health Organization, 80% of people use herbal medicine worldwide. (webmd.com)
- The concept of regression toward the mean implies that an extreme result is more likely to be followed by a less extreme result. (en.wikipedia.org)
- An assessment of conventional treatments found that 41.3% concluded positive or possibly positive effects, 20% concluded no effect, 8.1% concluded net harmful effects, and 21.3% concluded insufficient evidence. (en.wikipedia.org)
External Links
cam.cancer.gov
nccih.nih.gov
doi.org
ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
- BIOFEEDBACK TRAINING, TENSION-TYPEHEADACHE – PubMed
- PubMed. The Effect of Foot reflexology on Hospital Anxiety, Depression and Suffering in Older Women: A Randomized Controlled Test – PubMed
How To
What is it that a holistic doctor does that a conventional doctor doesn’t do?
A holistic doctor offers more services than a traditional physician, such as a nutritionist and massage therapist, as well as naturopaths, homeopaths, and naturopaths.
A holistic doctor treats patients holistically. Instead of treating symptoms, they examine the person and their environment. This allows them to find the root cause and implement preventative and long-term health measures. Holistic doctors combine conventional medicine with natural remedies like essential oils and herbs to treat illness. They offer nutritional and dietary advice to help you live a healthy lifestyle.
Additionally, holistic doctors offer treatments such as reflexology, massage, shiatsu and acupuncture.
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By: Karoline
Title: Part 5: Health In Relationships – 44 Revelations About Healing They DID NOT Teach Me In Medical School
Sourced From: lissarankin.com/part-5-health-in-relationships/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=part-5-health-in-relationships
Published Date: Tue, 06 Feb 2024 13:00:17 +0000
Frequently Asked Questions
Why is holistic medicine better?
Holistic healthcare focuses on the whole person and not just individual symptoms. This involves looking at how someone feels about their body, their diet, where they live, and how much stress they have.
Holistic medicine takes into account all aspects of a patient’s life and treats them like a whole package. Although it may sound easy, in practice this is difficult because doctors tend to focus only on the physical aspect of patients.
What is a holistic medicine doctor?
A holistic doctor is one who treats patients holistically. They may combine western medicine with traditional methods like acupuncture and herbs.
They are not interested in treating symptoms but rather a disease. The patient should feel better following treatment.
The doctor should not be limited to treating the disease. He or she must also work with patients to prevent future complications.
Holistic refers to all aspects of someone’s life.
What is complementary medicine?
Complementary Medicine is an umbrella term for any medical treatment that complements mainstream medicine. It includes treatments such as acupuncture, aromatherapy, chiropractic care, homeopathy, hypnosis, massage therapy, naturopathy, reflexology, traditional Chinese medicine, yoga and others.
Complementary medications are not to be used as an alternative to conventional medicine. Sometimes they’re called “alternative”, or “integrative”, because they combine Western scientific methods along with other therapies that have proven to be effective in healing people.
Why do people with cancer use alternative methods?
When trying to deal with their cancer, patients with the disease are often confronted with many obstacles. Some patients may believe they are doomed to failure or that there is no way out. Some symptoms include nausea, vomiting, headaches, weight loss, and fatigue.
Additionally, most traditional treatments do not work against cancer cells. Many cancer patients turn to complementary medicine for treatment. A majority of cancer patients will use alternative medications at least once during treatment according to research.
Sometimes, cancer patients will choose complementary medicine to chemotherapy. This is because they believe it will be easier and more effective in managing side effects. It may be because it’s less expensive.
You can also use the following reasons:
Some patients believe that natural remedies can help prevent a recurrence.
Many people believe that natural remedies could improve the quality and quantity of their lives.
Some believe natural remedies can lower the chance of developing cancer again.
Natural remedies are first-line therapy for those who are concerned about side effects from chemotherapy.
What are the Five Alternative Medical Systems (Alternatives)?
These five alternative medicine systems are Ayurveda (acupuncture), Ayurveda (homeopathy), energy healing, aromatherapy, and homeopathy.
Acupuncture involves inserting fine needles into specific points of the body to stimulate the flow (qi) of energy throughout the entire body.
Ayurvedic medicines is an ancient system to balance the three senses of air, fire,, and water. It includes diet, exercise and herbal remedies. Massage is also included.
Homeopathic Medicine takes its name from the Greek words homoios, similar, and pathos, meaning disease. Homeopaths believe every disease has natural causes. But not all symptoms. They treat people by prescribing minute doses of substances that cause similar symptoms to those experienced when the person is ill.
Energy Healing is also known for Reiki, EFT Rolfing Therapeutic Touch, Rolfing and Rolfing. This therapy is based on the belief that each person is connected to a universal life force called Ki. We feel better when this Ki flows freely through our bodies. Energy healers use touch and intention to help restore balance and harmony between our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual selves.
Aromatherapy uses essential herbs extracted from plants to provide therapeutic benefits. Aromatherapists believe certain smells can have a positive effect on mood and behavior. The most common essential oil used in aromatherapy is lavender.
How safe is holistic medicine.
Holistic medicines are safe because they are not harmful drugs but natural remedies for people who have been using them for centuries.
They have been shown to cure many illnesses, such as arthritis, chronic pain, asthma, cancer, high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, obesity, depression, anxiety, stress, insomnia, sexual dysfunction, infertility, etc.
Holistic medicines are also used by millions of people around the world who suffer from various kinds of diseases. These include homeopathy and acupuncture as well as chiropractic care, massage therapy, homeopathy, herbal treatments, biofeedback, yoga, meditation, hypnosis, nutrition counseling, physical exercise, and other complementary therapies. These therapies target the whole person and not just the symptoms.
Statistics
- According to a 2005 book by a US [116]Institute of Medicine panel, the number of RCTs focused on CAM has risen dramatically. (en.wikipedia.org)
- The use of alternative medicine in the US has increased, with a 50 percent increase in expenditures and a 25 percent increase in the use of alternative therapies between 1990 and 1997 in America. (en.wikipedia.org)
- According to the World Health Organization, 80% of people use herbal medicine worldwide. (webmd.com)
- The concept of regression toward the mean implies that an extreme result is more likely to be followed by a less extreme result. (en.wikipedia.org)
- An assessment of conventional treatments found that 41.3% concluded positive or possibly positive effects, 20% concluded no effect, 8.1% concluded net harmful effects, and 21.3% concluded insufficient evidence. (en.wikipedia.org)
External Links
cam.cancer.gov
nccih.nih.gov
doi.org
ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
- BIOFEEDBACK TRAINING, TENSION-TYPEHEADACHE – PubMed
- PubMed. The Effect of Foot reflexology on Hospital Anxiety, Depression and Suffering in Older Women: A Randomized Controlled Test – PubMed
How To
What is it that a holistic doctor does that a conventional doctor doesn’t do?
A holistic doctor offers more services than a traditional physician, such as a nutritionist and massage therapist, as well as naturopaths, homeopaths, and naturopaths.
A holistic doctor treats patients holistically. Instead of treating symptoms, they examine the person and their environment. This allows them to find the root cause and implement preventative and long-term health measures. Holistic doctors combine conventional medicine with natural remedies like essential oils and herbs to treat illness. They offer nutritional and dietary advice to help you live a healthy lifestyle.
Additionally, holistic doctors offer treatments such as reflexology, massage, shiatsu and acupuncture.
